Is this factual??
This has been an ongoing discussion since Beyonce' declared us females to be Independent Women. However, just because we are able to pay for our own meals, cars, and cribs- does that mean we still do not deserve to be treated like royalty from a man?
Just because we are independent doesnt mean we were always this way. Somebody helped us out along the way. Some women may lose site of this fact but others will be true to themselves. And these are the women we will focus on- the ones who are true.
Yes, we are able to buy our own meals. Because our lifestyles are so busy, we eat our more than the average but can still tear down in a kitchen.
Yes, we can afford our own car notes and yes, we can pay our own rent and mortgage. We can buy our clothes, diamonds, name-brand shoes that we really dont need, and buy expensive purses to match all our outfites, pay for mani's and pedi's without worrying about a budget. BUT just because we are able to do all this for ourselves, should a man STOP doing what a man is supposed to do?
Should he stop treating us like the queens we are?
Should he stop giving us the respect we deserve?
Should he stop being polite and courteous?
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!
Yes, I am working on my way to becoming a well-independent woman. As of right now, I am able to do alot for myself without having to ask a man, friends, or parents for a loan or handout.
That doesn't mean I don't appreciate it when:
*My chair is being pulled out
*Escorted to the door after a date
*Actually ringing the doorbell for a date, instead of having a car horn honked into my bedroom window
*Car doors and building doors opened for my entrance
*A meal cooked by a man
*Courtesy calls
*How are you doing today?" texts
When a man can do all of the above things for me, regardless of what I can do for myself- it allows me to think of him in another light- and maybe, JUST MAYBE the lifestyle I give to myself- it can be possible for me to share with him.
Honestly, ladies and gents, whether we are independent, seeking independence, or still on our way- the lifestyles we have wouldnt mean much without each other to share it with.
No, chivalry is not dead. Its lost.
(The Goddess)
Chivalry is lost, I agree. Most women don't appreciate it so as men we do it when it's necassary. Chivalry now is morelike you do it for me and I got you later on.
ReplyDeleteWell, speaking from a male point of view, being independent is measured by what you can do for yourself, true, but I feel being a QUEEN is measured by what you do for your KING. Being independent and being someone's Queen are two different things.
ReplyDeleteIf you're an independent woman who can financially support yourself, and even your man if need be, that's all fine and lovely. But, I believe, if you wanna be treated like a Queen, you gotta recognize that your man is King, otherwise, how are you a Queen?
You mention old fashion things that men should do such as pullin' out chairs, opening doors, etc. Well, I believe, a Queen is the type who makes sure her King's meal is on the table when he gets home, has his bath water ready, and other old fashioned ish like that. Those are just generic examples, but as I said, in order for a woman to be a Queen, she has to know who is King. Being independent is a whole nother subject.